Traditionally bride and groom enter the church separately – the groom first with the best man, and the bride at the time set for the service, on the arm of her father or another relative or friend. However, she may enter alone if she wishes, or the couple may arrive together.The minister will welcome the congregation, and then read an introduction explaining what Christians believe about marriage. He or she will ask the congregation and then the couple if there is any reason why the marriage may not lawfully take place. In the first part of the service, there will be readings from the Bible, and the minister may give a short address or sermon. You will then be asked to make declarations (repeated phrase by phrase after the minister) that you will live together according to God’s will and purpose; love, honour and care for each other, in sickness and in health; and be faithful to one another as long as you both live.  Then, with hands joined, you make your vows to take each other in marriage: To have and to hold, From this day forward For better for worse, For richer for poor. In sickness and in health, To love and to cherish, According to the will and purpose of God. And to this I give you my pledge You then exchange a ring or rings with these words: Receive this ring in token of my love and faithfulness I honour you with my body, And all my possessions I share with you The minister will then declare that you are man and wife, and pronounce a blessing over you as you kneel. The third part of the service is prayers for your future life together. When the service is concluded, the bride, groom and two witnesses must sign the Civil Register of Marriages. The minister will give you a copy of the marriage certificate. This takes a little time, and so music is often performed while it is happening. The choice should be discussed with the minister.  Music can be played on the organ or some other instrument(s), or sung by a soloist or choir
Suggested Readings and Music Suggested Music The following hymns and music are among the most frequently chosen, although you are free to select other hymns and music if you wish.  Please remember that if you include words or music in a  printed order of service, you must comply with copyright.  Your minister will advise you.
Suggested Readings  Corinthians 13. 1-7 Colossians 3. 12-17 Matthew 19.4-6 John 15. 9-12
Processional Music for the Arrival of the Bride and the End of the Service The Bridal March (Wagner) The Wedding March (Mendelssohn) Canon (Pachelbel) Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring (Bach) Arrival of the Queen of Sheba (Handel) Toccata (Widor) Trumpet Tune (Purcell) Trumpet Voluntary (Clarke) Air from the Water Music (Handel) Hornpipe from the Water Music (Handel)
Suggested  Hymns
All Things Bright and Beautiful Amazing Grace Bind Us Together Come down O Love Divine Father hear the prayer we offer Give me joy in my heart Guide Me, O Thou Great Jehovah Lead us, heavenly Father, lead us Lord, for the Years Lord of All Hopefulness Love Divine, All Loves Excelling Make Me a Channel of Your Peace Morning has Broken Now thank we all our God O praise ye the Lord Praise my Soul the King of Heaven The King of Love my Shepherd is
Frequently Asked Questions
What are banns?   Banns are the usual legal preliminary to a church wedding. They are an announcement of your intention to marry and an opportunity for anyone to put forward a reason why the marriage may not lawfully take place. Banns are read out in the main Sunday service in the parish where each of you lives as well as the church in which you are to be married, if that is in another parish.The Banns are called on three (usually but not necessarily consecutive) Sundays during the twelve weeks before the wedding.
Do I have to be married in my Parish Church, or could I choose any church? If   you   are   a   regular   worshipper   in   a   church   outside   the   parish   in   which   you   live,   it   is   usually   possible   to be   married   there.   If   you   are   not   a   regular   worshipper,   why   not   start   attending?   You   will   normally   be expected   to   attend   services   for   at   least   six   months   before   becoming   eligible   to   be   married   in   a   church other   than   your   parish   church.If   you   want   to   get   married   in   a   parish   where   neither   of   you   resides   or   is a   regular   worshipper,   you   will   need   to   talk   to   the   parish   priest.   Couples   can   apply   for   the   Archbishop of   Canterbury’s   Special   Licence,   if   one   of   them   has   a   genuine   and   long-standing   connection   with   the Church in which they wish to marry. To apply or find out more contact The Faculty Office, 1 The Sanctuary, Westminster, London SW1P 3JT tel: 020 7222 5381
Could I be married in church even if I don’t go to church?   Yes! Remember that the wedding ceremony in church has a distinctively Christian character and assumes that you accept the Christian understanding of marriage.
Can a divorced person have a church wedding?   Marriage is for life, but it is a sad fact that some marriages do fail. There are some circumstances in which a divorced person may marry again in church. If you are considering a church wedding and have been divorced, you should discuss this with your parish priest. (See more about what we believe about families and relationships.)
How much will it cost? The legal fees for a marriage cover the publication of the banns, the marriage service and a certificate of marriage. There will be additional fees for a choir, organist, bell-ringers, permission to make a video recording etc. Check with your parish priest..
Why do we need marriage preparation?   Most marriages are entered into confidently, assuming that they will last, but a very high proportion end in the tragedy of separation and divorce. Your marriage may have to last many years until death parts you, so it makes sense, however well you know one another, to think through your future relationship as man and wife. Most churches will therefore invite you to participate in preparation for your life together.
Can we be involved in planning the service?   Yes. The minister will discuss with you the arrangements for the service and help you decide on appropriate music and readings. You may wish to involve family or friends in the service: e.g. in doing a reading or playing a musical instrument. Click here for suggestions for readings and music. 
Can we have a video recording of the service? You will need to ask permission from the parish priest and some parishes have a policy that does not allow video to be taken. There may be a fee. Copyright issues also arise: for further information, go to  http://www.cofe.anglican.org/worship/downloads/litcopy.rtf under Video and Audio Recordings.
Will there be a rehearsal for the ceremony?   The minister will want to run through the service with you and others who are taking part so that everyone knows what to expect. The rehearsal will usually take place in church during the few days before the service
When may we marry?   The day and time of the service is decided in consultation with your minister. It must be between 8am and 6pm and not clash with other Church services. For example, if you wanted to marry on a Sunday, it would have to be at a time other than the normal Sunday services and when the minister is available. By custom, there are no weddings during Lent, the church season covering the six weeks before Easter
Is it possible to have a church blessing after being married abroad or by Civil Ceremony?   Yes. Ask your parish priest or minister about this. There are no legal preliminaries necessary.
What if one of us lives abroad?   Banns are not possible in these circumstances, so a Common Licence will be required. Your minister will help you to apply for this.
What if one of us is a foreign national?   If one of the parties is a national of a country outside Canada, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa, the EU or USA, it would be wise to obtain from the relevant embassy or consulate a letter saying that the marriage will be recognised there. The marriage should be by Common Licence and not by banns.
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THE PARISH OF KILLAY
St Hilary & St Martin
Y PLWYF CILÂ
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PARISH OF KILLAY
The Church in Wales in the Diocese of Swansea & Brecon
St Hilary & St Martin
  PLWYF CILÂ
.
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Copyright Parish of Killay 2018
Traditionally bride and groom enter the church separately – the groom first with the best man, and the bride at the time set for the service, on the arm of her father or another relative or friend. However, she may enter alone if she wishes, or the couple may arrive together.The minister will welcome the congregation, and then read an introduction explaining what Christians believe about marriage. He or she will ask the congregation and then the couple if there is any reason why the marriage may not lawfully take place. In the first part of the service, there will be readings from the Bible, and the minister may give a short address or sermon. You will then be asked to make declarations (repeated phrase by phrase after the minister) that you will live together according to God’s will and purpose; love, honour and care for each other, in sickness and in health; and be faithful to one another as long as you both live.  Then, with hands joined, you make your vows to take each other in marriage: To have and to hold, From this day forward For better for worse, For richer for poor. In sickness and in health, To love and to cherish, According to the will and purpose of God. And to this I give you my pledge You then exchange a ring or rings with these words: Receive this ring in token of my love and faithfulness I honour you with my body, And all my possessions I share with you The minister will then declare that you are man and wife, and pronounce a blessing over you as you kneel. The third part of the service is prayers for your future life together. When the service is concluded, the bride, groom and two witnesses must sign the Civil Register of Marriages. The minister will give you a copy of the marriage certificate. This takes a little time, and so music is often performed while it is happening. The choice should be discussed with the minister.  Music can be played on the organ or some other instrument(s), or sung by a soloist or choir
Suggested Readings and Music Suggested Music The following hymns and music are among the most frequently chosen, although you are free to select other hymns and music if you wish.  Please remember that if you include words or music in a  printed order of service, you must comply with copyright.  Your minister will advise you.
Suggested Readings  Corinthians 13. 1-7 Colossians 3. 12-17 Matthew 19.4-6 John 15. 9-12
Processional Music for the Arrival of the Bride and the End of the Service The Bridal March (Wagner) The Wedding March (Mendelssohn) Canon (Pachelbel) Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring (Bach) Arrival of the Queen of Sheba (Handel) Toccata (Widor) Trumpet Tune (Purcell) Trumpet Voluntary (Clarke) Air from the Water Music (Handel) Hornpipe from the Water Music (Handel)
Suggested  Hymns
All Things Bright and Beautiful Amazing Grace Bind Us Together Come down O Love Divine Father hear the prayer we offer Give me joy in my heart Guide Me, O Thou Great Jehovah Lead us, heavenly Father, lead us Lord, for the Years Lord of All Hopefulness Love Divine, All Loves Excelling Make Me a Channel of Your Peace Morning has Broken Now thank we all our God O praise ye the Lord Praise my Soul the King of Heaven The King of Love my Shepherd is
Frequently Asked Questions
What are banns?   Banns are the usual legal preliminary to a church wedding. They are an announcement of your intention to marry and an opportunity for anyone to put forward a reason why the marriage may not lawfully take place. Banns are read out in the main Sunday service in the parish where each of you lives as well as the church in which you are to be married, if that is in another parish.The Banns are called on three (usually but not necessarily consecutive) Sundays during the twelve weeks before the wedding.
Do   I   have   to   be   married   in   my   Parish   Church,   or   could   I choose any church? If   you   are   a   regular   worshipper   in   a   church   outside   the   parish in   which   you   live,   it   is   usually   possible   to   be   married   there.   If you   are   not   a   regular   worshipper,   why   not   start   attending? You   will   normally   be   expected   to   attend   services   for   at   least six    months    before    becoming    eligible    to    be    married    in    a church    other    than    your    parish    church.If    you    want    to    get married    in    a    parish    where    neither    of    you    resides    or    is    a regular   worshipper,   you   will   need   to   talk   to   the   parish   priest. Couples   can   apply   for   the   Archbishop   of   Canterbury’s   Special Licence,    if    one    of    them    has    a    genuine    and    long-standing connection with the Church in which they wish to marry. To apply or find out more contact The Faculty Office, 1 The Sanctuary, Westminster, London SW1P 3JT tel: 020 7222 5381
Could I be married in church even if I don’t go to church?   Yes! Remember that the wedding ceremony in church has a distinctively Christian character and assumes that you accept the Christian understanding of marriage.
Can a divorced person have a church wedding?   Marriage is for life, but it is a sad fact that some marriages do fail. There are some circumstances in which a divorced person may marry again in church. If you are considering a church wedding and have been divorced, you should discuss this with your parish priest. (See more about what we believe about families and relationships.)
How much will it cost? The legal fees for a marriage cover the publication of the banns, the marriage service and a certificate of marriage. There will be additional fees for a choir, organist, bell-ringers, permission to make a video recording etc. Check with your parish priest..
Why do we need marriage preparation?   Most marriages are entered into confidently, assuming that they will last, but a very high proportion end in the tragedy of separation and divorce. Your marriage may have to last many years until death parts you, so it makes sense, however well you know one another, to think through your future relationship as man and wife. Most churches will therefore invite you to participate in preparation for your life together.
Can we be involved in planning the service?   Yes. The minister will discuss with you the arrangements for the service and help you decide on appropriate music and readings. You may wish to involve family or friends in the service: e.g. in doing a reading or playing a musical instrument. Click here for suggestions for readings and music. 
Can we have a video recording of the service? You will need to ask permission from the parish priest and some parishes have a policy that does not allow video to be taken. There may be a fee. Copyright issues also arise: for further information, go to  http://www.cofe.anglican.org/worship/downloads/lit copy.rtf under Video and Audio Recordings.
Will there be a rehearsal for the ceremony?   The minister will want to run through the service with you and others who are taking part so that everyone knows what to expect. The rehearsal will usually take place in church during the few days before the service
When may we marry?   The day and time of the service is decided in consultation with your minister. It must be between 8am and 6pm and not clash with other Church services. For example, if you wanted to marry on a Sunday, it would have to be at a time other than the normal Sunday services and when the minister is available. By custom, there are no weddings during Lent, the church season covering the six weeks before Easter
Is   it   possible   to   have   a   church   blessing   after   being married abroad or by Civil Ceremony?   Yes. Ask your parish priest or minister about this. There are no legal preliminaries necessary.
What if one of us lives abroad?   Banns are not possible in these circumstances, so a Common Licence will be required. Your minister will help you to apply for this.
What if one of us is a foreign national?   If one of the parties is a national of a country outside Canada, Australia, New Zealand, South Africa, the EU or USA, it would be wise to obtain from the relevant embassy or consulate a letter saying that the marriage will be recognised there. The marriage should be by Common Licence and not by banns.
? Marriage Fees ? Marriage Application Form ? Banns Application Form ? Marriage Act ? Marriage Service
THE PARISH OF KILLAY
St Hilary & St Martin
Y PLWYF CILÂ
PARISH OF KILLAY
The Church in Wales in the Diocese of Swansea & Brecon
St Hilary & St Martin
  PLWYF CILÂ
Copyright Parish of Killay 2018